Why Is It so Hard to Give?

I have a confession to make. I struggle with giving. I love to give gifts but often times I talk myself out of giving.

photo credit: Joe Buckingham via Creative Commons

photo credit: Joe Buckingham via Creative Commons

I know I want to give but when I start to give generously I get caught up thinking too much.
What if my car breaks down?
What if I have to go to the hospital for something?

I selfishly think I need to create my own safety net. There certainly is a place for saving money for unfortunate circumstances but we often hide behind it.

What I have found in my own life is often times I’m scared to be generous because I don’t want to make people feel uncomfortable. It sounds odd because who doesn’t like getting presents? I don’t want people to feel obligated to give me a gift. I don’t want them to wonder why I am giving them something. They may think I have an ulterior motive.

Earlier this year I read, I Like Giving, which is an incredible book that talks about giving and living generously. In the book Brad Formsma writes this about giving,

When we choose to give, we change, and the people around us change. When we move from awareness to action, miracles happen. When we allow giving to be our idea, a world of possibilities opens up before us, and we discover new levels of joy.”

This sounds a bit dramatic but when you start to give you start to understand what he means.

There isn’t a better time to get back in the swing of giving than Christmas.

I’m writing this as much for myself as I am for anyone else. To paraphrase Pete Wilson, if you can’t be generous when you make $20,000 a year you will never be generous when you make $200,000 a year.

As I have seen an incremental amount of growth over the past few years in my income, I know exactly what he means. We all have this idea in our heads that when we make a lot of money then we will be generous. It doesn’t work that way.

Be generous this Christmas. Don’t wait until next Christmas or the one after that to give. Do it now.