Is Marriage Hard?

I was scrolling through my Instagram feed early Monday when I saw this post from Donald Miller.

Now this is fairly normal especially considering he was doing so to accentuate the fact he has been married for a year. That was not the part that stood out to me the most. The part that stood out the most about this was what he posted in the latter half of the caption.

Who says marriage has to be hard? Most blessed year of my life.”

Morgan and I have had this discussion before. We were at a gathering at church with a couple who had just married as well as another couple who were engaged. The couple who had recently married were talking about how difficult marriage was and how they were struggling to deal with everything.

The couple who was engaged talked about how they were nervous about marriage and didn’t know what to expect.

I didn’t say anything at the time but I wish I would have. I have only been married 7 months so I am not pretending to be an expert in a subject I am clearly not, but I feel confident about the early stages of marriage.

Marriage doesn’t have to be hard. I believe we have an idea in our mind of what marriage is all about and often it is difficult. It doesn’t have to be difficult. It can be the greatest time of your life if you allow it to be. You have to have the mindset that it will be great.

I have the mindset that my marriage will be great. There are certainly trials and even small arguments which derail us sometimes but I’m not going to pretend like marriage is so difficult when the past few months have been so easy.

I know there are big issues Morgan and I will have to deal with and although I don’t know what they will be I know we will get through them. It will be tough. But we will persevere.

I’m not going to let it impact our marriage in the present. Because like Miller says, “who says marriage has to be hard?”