Failure has a way of overwhelming your life. It has a way of leaving you constantly dwelling on the shortcomings and mistakes. It does not matter what you have done or what you have accomplished, your failures will bring you down if you let them.
Before the University of Tennessee’s first game of the football season head coach, Butch Jones, had this to say: “The losses, the defeats, they live with you. They never leave you. The victories, they leave you in about 10 minutes.” After losing to Georgia by three on Saturday that quote stings a little more.
There are a million quotes on failure but I believe that encompasses the way a lot of us live our lives. The biggest moments in our lives sometimes leave us right after they happen. Sure we remember them but we rarely dwell on them or take pride in them. However the failures? We think about those daily.
We rarely think about the positives of the situation though. We typically beat ourselves up over what has happened and tiptoe through life after the fact in order to try to prevent another mistake.
I know for me I don’t feel like sitting around and dwelling on what I have accomplished because I am afraid it will bring complacency. I also have a fear of failing. Nobody wants to fail, but if we aren’t failing we aren’t trying. If you don’t put yourself out there you never have the opportunity to fail. Failing hurts. It doesn’t feel good. It feels really bad.
I am going to spend the next few posts talking about failure. I have no problem dwelling on the failures I have experienced in life, but I rarely look back and see what I have gained from it. It is not easy to do but it is worth it.