– But there’s no options here. I told you that.
– So leave.
– I could leave.
– Then leave.
– But it would be better to stay here, and have things be different.
This excerpt is from a book I just read by Dave Eggers, A Hologram for the King. It is a great book and I absolutely could not put it down.
The main character is in a foreign country and is speaking to a cab driver he has befriended. The cab driver’s response to a prompting of moving and getting out of a bad situation has really resonated with me.
Often times I find myself feeling this exact same way. I am the complete opposite of a hypochondriac. If it were not for the prodding of others I would never go to the doctor. I am not sure why I am this way because I am not afraid of needles or any other specific medical remedy I simply do not like going to the doctor. When I have been sick in the past I have wished things would simply get better without actually doing anything about it. I’m not naïve enough to believe that works but I still felt that way.
On a much bigger scale I have found myself in situations that were really bad. We all end up in these situations from time to time even if we did nothing wrong to get into them. I longed so deeply for my circumstances to change. Unfortunately, wishing a problem will go away does not help at all. Looking back I wished I would have spent more time figuring out what I should do about a problem instead of dwelling in my problem.
The worst type of complacency is knowing you need to change something about the circumstance you find yourself in and choosing not to do anything about it.
I struggle with being complacent. I know it is why this line in the book spoke to me so deeply. I want to get better at it because I don’t want to settle for anything and I don’t want to wither in bad situations.